Stop Chasing Your Dreams

Being told to stop chasing your dreams doesn't sound very motivational or inspirational but it was some of the best advice I ever received.

As someone who has spent most of his life chasing some dream or another, determined to succeed in ever venture, I found it difficult to understand why my therapist would tell me to stop chasing my dreams. The reality was that, although I generally accomplished what I set out to, it never came easy. At the time, I was really struggling to make ends meet and the harder I pursued ways to earn more money, the more elusive it become. Chasing money became obsessive, through a fear of not having enough to pay my bills.

Sharing my worries with my therapist she suggested I stop chasing money. She simply asked what would happen if I began pursuing someone I didn’t know in the street. Considering this, I replied that they would likely try and get away from me. She helped me entertain the idea that the more I chased something the more it might try to evade me. If you chase something, it will probably run away. 

I still didn’t understand how I was going to pay my bills if I didn’t pursue making money and what she suggested next was to change my life forever. Instead of chasing something, attract it. It was so simple that it blew my mind. After a lifetime of chasing dreams, I suddenly realised that there was another, better way. Flowers don’t chase bees, they simply make themselves so attractive that the bees seek them out.

This idea turned my thinking of acquiring success on its head. I had always been told to go after what you want in life, so this different approach was alien to me. However, the minute I stopped making it about earning money and focused on providing something that had value, the money came. It seemed miraculous.

If there is something in your life that you’d like to have, instead of chasing it, attract it. Make yourself irresistible, make what you have to offer so desirable that you become the most powerful magnet!